The goal of the book is to explore the need for temperance, renunciation, moderation, and self-control in a society where the good life is often equated with consuming, experiencing, and traveling as much as possible. It draws inspiration from ancient Greece and some contemporary authors who are part of this “counterculture.” The author's thesis is that the fear of missing out, or FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), has become an epidemic. Instead, he advocates for embracing JOMO (Joy of Missing Out), the joy of missing out on things, which can be a source of true fulfillment.
The book analyzes ways of living that enable society as a whole to focus on these values. It presents this as an existential, ethical, and psychological necessity to discern what is truly important and to deepen our engagement with it. A good life, according to the author, is an activity in accordance with virtues. The key to achieving this lies in disciplining the will and creating an environment with fewer temptations. A life less saturated with choices makes happiness more attainable. Consumerism and relentless activity do not seem to make us freer; hence, “less is more.” The book encourages focusing on being, reflecting, preserving, and celebrating. It explores the five dimensions of human life: political, existential, ethical, psychological, and aesthetic.
The author (born in 1975) is a Danish philosopher and psychologist, a proponent of Stoicism. He teaches Psychology at Aalborg University, organizes events, and gives lectures on key issues of modern life. This book is a valuable read for anyone who struggles to say no or feels overwhelmed by the multitude of things that prevent them from appreciating what they already have. Highly recommended.